How to find your soulmate

A man sits under a tree and wonders,"Where is the one for me?"A woman watches the wind blow through the mountains and whispers,"Why do I feel incomplete?"Their questions echo in the stillness of existence—not in noise, but in silence.

The soul speaks.What most call a soulmate is not someone to complete them, but someone who awakens what lies dormant.Mirroring—is seeing one's true nature reflected. (twin flame) A saint once said,"What you are is what you attract."Not because of fate or blind luck, but because the universe brings to you what your vibration sustains—not the loud desire, but the quiet energy you cultivate.

When the inner self reaches balance, the outer world mirrors that harmony. So how does one get their soulmate?The question assumes effort.The real answer lies not in seeking, but in being.

The path to one’s soulmate is not a journey outward, but a deep descent inward.And the story begins when a solitary traveler enters the forest—not to find love,but to lose what blocks it.

The Meeting with Emptiness

A traveler wandered through a dense forest—not lost, not found, simply moving.Every person met before felt incomplete— like shadows pretending to be whole.Every connection broke down over time.Nothing stayed.Nothing clicked.

And so the traveler asked his pastor,"Why do I feel no one belongs to me?"The pastor replied,"Do you belong to yourself?"

The question burned. It did not soothe. It revealed.

Before love with another becomes clear, love with the self must no longer waver.Not egoic love—praise, vanity, or pride—but compassionate awareness of one’s wounds, fears, truths, and desires.

The traveler sat by a stream and watched the water flow. Every thought that passed—memories, regrets, desires—danced like fallen leaves in the current.The traveler said aloud,"I seek a soulmate."The wind replied, "Then first, stop seeking."

To get your soulmate, one must abandon the chase.Desire creates distortion.The more one grasps, the more illusion fills the path.

In Buddhist thought, tanha—craving—is the root of suffering.  (also in Matthew 6:19-21)One cannot demand what flows naturally. Love that is meant feels like stillness, not storm.

The one who clings repels.The one who surrenders attracts.

The Mirror of the Mind

In the forest, the traveler met another being—silent, composed, kind. No words exchanged—just eyes. But something stirred.

Not attraction.Not longing.Recognition.

Like looking into a mirror and seeing forgotten parts of oneself.Later, the traveler asked his guardian angel, "Who was that?"

The angel replied, "That was your mind."

Confused, the traveler protested, "It was a person!"The guardian angel smiled."Every person you meet is a projection of your mind’s current state.If you saw clarity, it means you begin to awaken."

There is a word in eastern psychology, the alayavijnana—storehouse consciousness—holds impressions from lifetimes.

When purified, it projects love in its highest form.When clouded, it manifests repeated chaos in relationships.

Before a soulmate enters, the inner mind must reflect purity, clarity, peace.

Your soulmate does not come because of luck or timing. They appear when your mind no longer seeks comfort in others, but embodies it.

The soul vibrates in frequency. When it resonates with truth, it meets a matching echo.

This is not mystical. It is natural law.

The Stillness Before the Bloom

Seasons passed.The traveler no longer wandered to find someone but to understand the self.Days became simple.Mornings began with silence.Nights ended with reflection.

A strange joy unfolded—not excitement, but contentment. No messages waited. No voice called.Yet the heartbeat peacefully.

Then one morning, during meditation,a breeze brushed the traveler’s cheek.A presence arrived—familiar, but unknown.Not loud,not dramatic—just presence.

They sat beside the traveler—without word, without aim. In that stillness, something bloomed.

The soul prepares long before love enters.Zen for example, does not believe in sudden fate, but in gradual readiness.When one cultivates mindfulness, presence, and compassion, love arrives—not as a fix,but as a reflection.

You do not GET your soulmate. You BECOME who your soulmate belongs with.

This means:healing your wounds,loving your silence,walking through loneliness—not as punishment,but preparation.

The Testing of Illusion

Days passed in connection. It felt sacred. But doubt arrived like storm clouds.What if this doesn’t last? What if it’s another illusion?

The traveler withdrew.Fear of loss awakened past scars.Clinging returned. And just like that—the presence began to fade.

The traveler prayed to his guardian angel and cried,"Why is love always slipping away?"

The guardian angel replied,"You grasp. You demand permanence in what is meant to flow."

Christianity says,

Seek my face, and you will find not only my presence but also my peace period to receive my peace, you must change your grasping, controlling stance to 1 of openness and trust. The only thing you can grasp without damaging your soul is my hand. Ask my spirit within you to order your day and control your thoughts, for the mind controlled by the spirit is life and peace. You can have as much of me and my peace as you want, through thousands of correct choices each day.

The most persistent choice you face is whether to trust me or to worry.

You will never run out of things to worry about, but you can choose to trust me no matter what period I am ever present help in trouble. Trust me, through the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea. Romans 8: 6; Psalm 46: 1-2

Zen says,"The tighter the grip, the faster it slips."

A soulmate does not bind you. They free you.If fear begins to dominate love, the soul retreats—because the soul seeks freedom,not prison.

Many lose their soulmate not because love was false, but because fear distorted it.

You must love from presence, not possession.Let each moment be full, not forced.

The Return Without Want

Years passed. The traveler no longer searched, no longer waited. Life became peaceful. One morning, while sweeping fallen leaves, a figure walked up the same path where once the two had sat in silence. This time, nothing stirred in the heart. There was no rush, no ache—just peace.

They looked into each other’s eyes. No words were spoken—only truth. And in that truth, both smiled. Because when nothing was needed, everything became possible. The soulmate returned, not because of magic, but because space existed for them. When the soul no longer depends on another for wholeness, it naturally attracts one who is whole too.

Love then becomes something entirely different: not a transaction, but a union. Not possession, but sharing. Not need, but joy. This is how to get your soulmate: do not seek them—seek truth. Heal your inner wounds. Master your mind’s illusions. Release attachment and control. Embrace solitude. Then love will arrive—not when you need it, but when you no longer need anything.

The Path Is Not a Map But a Flame

Zen teaches that the greatest love story is not written in pages, but in presence. Your soulmate is not waiting in some distant land or faded date on a calendar. They are the echo of your evolution. As you rise, they rise. As you deepen, they deepen.

Do not ask, “Where is my soulmate?” Instead, ask, “Who must I become to meet them?” And one day—without warning, without effort—a soul will stand beside yours. Not to complete you, but to walk with you. Not to fill a void, but to share light. And in that stillness, you will know: you did not find them. You became them.

The Misunderstood Pursuit

Many believe love is something to find—like a lost treasure hidden in a far-off land, waiting in the eyes of a stranger. But this idea is the beginning of illusion. Zen does not support outward pursuit as the path to truth, because pursuit implies separation, and separation is the illusion the ego sustains.

In Buddhism, dukkha—suffering—emerges from attachment, craving, and false perception. When one craves a soulmate, one does not love—they cling, they need, they expect. But love rooted in need decays, because it feeds on another’s presence like a fire feeding on dry wood. It burns fast and ends in smoke.

The more you seek, the further it gets. The moment you stop chasing and begin purifying your inner being, the path begins to align naturally. This is why the story begins with silence and emptiness—not as punishment, but as the necessary ground for awakening.

The Self Is the First Love

In the story, when the traveler asks, “Why do I feel no one belongs to me?” the sage replies, “Do you belong to yourself?” This is not a riddle—it is a truth most avoid. To belong to yourself means to know your wounds without shame, to honor your solitude without sorrow, and to love your own presence without fear.

Zen speaks of zazen—seated meditation—not as a method to gain peace, but to see clearly. When you sit with yourself without distractions or entertainment, you meet the rawness of your own being. And if you can look into your own soul without flinching, you are ready to see another soul without illusion.

Before Seeking Connection, Establish Wholeness Within

A soulmate does not complete you—they reflect you. The unhealed you will attract the unhealed them. The awakened you will meet someone also awake.

The Mirror of Karma

In the forest, the traveler meets someone that stirs a strange recognition—a mirror-like presence. Later, it is revealed that this encounter was not with another, but with the mind. Why? Because the mind creates your world—not metaphorically, but literally.

Everything experienced is filtered through the lens of perception. In Buddhism, this is vijnana—consciousness shaped by karma. Karma in this sense is not reward or punishment—it is the momentum of patterns. If your mind is conditioned by abandonment, betrayal, or fear, you will meet these same energies in others.

Only when those patterns are burned away through awareness and presence do you begin to meet purity, peace, depth, and truth. Heal your mind, and your relationships will transform—not by luck, but by law.

The Silence That Attracts

Stillness is not emptiness—it is fullness without noise. Many misunderstand this. The traveler begins to live simply. The heart finds peace in silence. And only then does a presence appear—not in chaos, but in calm.

This reveals a powerful teaching: love, when it’s real, arrives quietly. It does not shout. It does not need to impress. It simply is. In Buddhist philosophy, when the mind is calm, the citta—heart-mind—becomes clear. It is like a still pond that reflects the moon perfectly. When stirred, the moon disappears in ripples.

In the same way, the soulmate appears not because you called them, but because you cleared the fog. Your soulmate enters your life when your heart becomes a peaceful home—not a battlefield.

The Test of Fear

In the story, when fear arises, the bond begins to crumble. This is a vital moment. Many confuse love with possession. They try to hold on to it, control it, predict it. But love, in its essence, is freedom—and fear is the death of freedom.

The Buddha taught: attachment leads to fear, and fear leads to suffering. You fear losing what you cling to. And so, the soul retracts—not because love disappeared, but because freedom did.

Real love does not control—it allows. Real love does not demand—it trusts. If fear begins to dictate your love, the soul of the other will step away, even if their heart stays.

When it no longer matters, it arrives. In the end, the traveler no longer waits, no longer craves—and then the soulmate returns. Not out of magic, but because the space was clear.

This is the paradox of love: when you want it desperately, it evades you. When you no longer need it, it arrives. Why? Because desperation vibrates with scarcity. Peace vibrates with abundance. Your soulmate does not answer your emptiness—they join your fullness. You do not attract love by being broken. You attract it by being whole.

Becoming the Soulmate

Ultimately, the teachings do not just reveal how to get your soulmate—they reveal how to become the soulmate someone else is waiting for. This means walking through your pain with awareness, not resistance. Let go of illusions about love being a fantasy of perfection. See others as mirrors, not saviors. Practice loving-kindness toward all beings—including yourself.

Release the need for a specific face, voice, or moment. Trust that when your soul is ready, the universe responds—not randomly, but rightly.

Zen says, “When the student is ready, the teacher appears.” In love, it is the same. When the soul is ready, the soulmate appears.

(from Zen Philosoph on youtube “How to get your soulmate in Life – Zen and Buddhist Teachings)