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EMDR Therapy
So I had someone in group suffering terribly for this last year. (Constant panic attacks, bouts of depression, fear, anxiety, etc) then…...
Shannon Goertz
Nov 9, 20241 min read


Dating HELL Q&A
Question : When a guy tells you “you have nothing to offer” 🤯 That’s what I was told yesterday. That’s a first. I’m 45 years old,...
Shannon Goertz
Oct 30, 20242 min read


emotional sobriety
Rule 15: watch your addictions In my book, I voices strong opinion that I believe that addiction is the most missed diagnosis within the...
Shannon Goertz
Oct 28, 20245 min read


Divorce- Losing family and friends
Q: After my divorce, being married for 23 years, my ex had a live in girlfriend within a few months. Although our divorce was amicable,...
Shannon Goertz
Oct 27, 20242 min read


Predicting the future of a romantic relationship
Someone posted in one of the forums I follow that they were upset within three days of having sexual relations, the guy completely...
Shannon Goertz
Oct 23, 20243 min read


Your vibration & karma
What is Karma Yoga? Every action (karma) that we perform puts out a vibration of energy—leading to happiness or suffering. The practice...
Shannon Goertz
Oct 16, 20242 min read


Vilomah (against the natural order of things)
I was thinking one day about how they call a female, a widow or a male a widower… and I started wondering what did they call it when you lose a child. I found an ancient Sanskrit word that meant “against the natural order of things”. That’s it. The following is a message from some of my personally who who lost her son not too long ago. I find people don’t mention Benjamin because they either don’t really care how I’m doing/feeling or they may be afraid I’m going to fall apart
Shannon Goertz
Aug 22, 20243 min read
Pain’s Exit Door
Doors out of suffering…. Dr. Jordan Peterson said, “the way I see it, you should lead a life so full of meaning that suffering becomes a...
Shannon Goertz
Aug 11, 20242 min read
Alimony Argument $$
Q: my divorce leaves me feeling defeated and on the verge of just waiving the white flag. I know it’s not my STBX responsibly to still...
Shannon Goertz
Jul 25, 20242 min read
Kids...taking sides
Q: It’s been over a year since my divorce. My ex did a number on my kids before and after the divorce- I’m the bad guy. It was traumatic...
Shannon Goertz
Jul 20, 20242 min read
A Happy Ending?
I still remember the first time I discussed in a divorce social media forum whether or not we all get a “happy ending”. I was in a hurry....
Shannon Goertz
Jul 19, 20241 min read


TOP 20 Books
Annihilation by Shannon Goertz How to do the work by Dr. Nicole Lepara When things fall apart by Pema Chodron Feeling good by Dr. David Burns (referred to me by a psychologist who kept pleasing patient, because the book healed them so much. The first lady in my group did ever listened and did the exercises came back beaming for the next group, and then never came back to us again.😊) For the Love of Eryk By Rod McCall (not for the lighthearted and for those suffering parental
Shannon Goertz
Mar 1, 20241 min read
Prepare the RIGHT way
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Shannon Goertz
Jan 16, 20241 min read


Chasing the Storm
Adopting a new spirit animal- Embracing your Inner Bison. 🦬 Facing the storm… I’ve seen too many, put off the inevitable. You can run the opposite direction from a storm that you know is going to rip you to pieces. Bison are the only animal that will run toward a blizzard. They will instinctively charge face first directly into the path of the storm as opposed to huddling together or running away. This will get them out of harms way sooner than later, thus limiting the amoun
Shannon Goertz
Dec 13, 20231 min read
Life’s purpose = Surviving
This is the true joy in life, being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one. Being a force of nature instead of a...
Shannon Goertz
Sep 24, 20231 min read
Am I someone you love?
The reality of fighting in a healthy relationship versus an abusive one. How often has fighting with your partner left feeling like you...
Shannon Goertz
Feb 27, 20231 min read
Loving the Abuser…
Stockholm syndrome is an emotional response. It happens to some abuse and hostage victims when they have positive feelings toward...
Shannon Goertz
Feb 6, 20233 min read
OCD or Addiction? Which is it???
Being compulsive is a central characteristic of OCD and is crucial to addiction. OCD is proposed to be included in the concept of...
Shannon Goertz
Nov 1, 20223 min read
Will I ever trust or love again?
Yes. I had a epiphany while studying mountain climbing recently. This happened when I was writing a short story that required a lot of...
Shannon Goertz
Dec 3, 20202 min read
Turning the corner...
It is not uncommon for someone to come into the divorce support group who is beyond upset. I mean they are in the ninth level of Dante’s...
Shannon Goertz
Nov 27, 20202 min read
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