top of page
Search
Kids...taking sides
Q: It’s been over a year since my divorce. My ex did a number on my kids before and after the divorce- I’m the bad guy. It was traumatic...
Shannon Goertz
Jul 20, 20242 min read
A Happy Ending?
I still remember the first time I discussed in a divorce social media forum whether or not we all get a “happy ending”. I was in a hurry....
Shannon Goertz
Jul 19, 20241 min read


TOP 20 Books
Annihilation by Shannon Goertz How to do the work by Dr. Nicole Lepara When things fall apart by Pema Chodron Feeling good by Dr. David Burns (referred to me by a psychologist who kept pleasing patient, because the book healed them so much. The first lady in my group did ever listened and did the exercises came back beaming for the next group, and then never came back to us again.😊) For the Love of Eryk By Rod McCall (not for the lighthearted and for those suffering parental
Shannon Goertz
Mar 1, 20241 min read
Prepare the RIGHT way
https://www.instagram.com/reel/C2JG7MGxPfR/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
Shannon Goertz
Jan 16, 20241 min read


Chasing the Storm
Adopting a new spirit animal- Embracing your Inner Bison. 🦬 Facing the storm… I’ve seen too many, put off the inevitable. You can run the opposite direction from a storm that you know is going to rip you to pieces. Bison are the only animal that will run toward a blizzard. They will instinctively charge face first directly into the path of the storm as opposed to huddling together or running away. This will get them out of harms way sooner than later, thus limiting the amoun
Shannon Goertz
Dec 13, 20231 min read
Life’s purpose = Surviving
This is the true joy in life, being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one. Being a force of nature instead of a...
Shannon Goertz
Sep 24, 20231 min read
Am I someone you love?
The reality of fighting in a healthy relationship versus an abusive one. How often has fighting with your partner left feeling like you...
Shannon Goertz
Feb 27, 20231 min read
Loving the Abuser…
Stockholm syndrome is an emotional response. It happens to some abuse and hostage victims when they have positive feelings toward...
Shannon Goertz
Feb 6, 20233 min read
OCD or Addiction? Which is it???
Being compulsive is a central characteristic of OCD and is crucial to addiction. OCD is proposed to be included in the concept of...
Shannon Goertz
Nov 1, 20223 min read
Will I ever trust or love again?
Yes. I had a epiphany while studying mountain climbing recently. This happened when I was writing a short story that required a lot of...
Shannon Goertz
Dec 3, 20202 min read
Turning the corner...
It is not uncommon for someone to come into the divorce support group who is beyond upset. I mean they are in the ninth level of Dante’s...
Shannon Goertz
Nov 27, 20202 min read
WHY?
Why? W-H-Y Why did this happen? Why did he do this to me and our family? Why did she leave me for someone else? Why did he fall off the...
Shannon Goertz
Nov 27, 20201 min read
Dating, Laws of Attraction, Hannibal Lecter and the Iceberg Principle
People ask me all the time, “When is it too soon to date?” That is different for every person. However I must warn you, the Laws of...
Shannon Goertz
Oct 20, 20203 min read


Divorce, Religion, Politics…the Perfect Plan
I’ve often pondered why everyone’s Faith seems to vanish when it comes to heartbreak, arguments with others regarding religious beliefs...
Shannon Goertz
Sep 9, 20202 min read
The Roller Coaster, Controls Issues 101 and Dr. Stephen Covey
I was married to a narcissist. I don't think I truly understood what a narcissist was for that matter. We all hear the word off and on...
Shannon Goertz
Aug 26, 20203 min read
DEATH by 1000 cuts
Me and my husband and our three beautiful boys we’re at NFL game in Carolina two summers back when the battery on my cell phone ran out...
Shannon Goertz
Aug 17, 20201 min read


Marriage Therapy and other Snake Oil
I have always said that the biggest SCAM of divorce is marriage therapy. I have known a genius psychologist for over 10 years now. His...
Shannon Goertz
Aug 14, 20204 min read
bottom of page

